The oldest picture on your current profile should be less than 2 years old. I will say I saw a woman’s profile recently in which she took what had to be the most unflattering shot of just her body—in an ill-fitting, horizontal-striped top. Or, maybe they do, but they don’t then want to meet it out for a beer. But as soon as the focus of your profile starts to be animal centric, you’re in trouble. While you may think this is an attempt to keep it anonymous, protect her identity, it looks so bad. We can’t help but wonder what happened to that person, and if you hate her or aren’t over her, or vice versa. Even if you crop down that picture, if all we see is a well-manicured hand on your shoulder, yeah, there’s something creepy about that too. They’re paid to show the essence and beauty of someone’s personality—which you never will in your bathroom mirror.
Ladies, if you’re showing a ton of stuff on your profile pics, or focusing in on specific anatomy, don’t be surprised when the guys who fill up your inbox are NOT the kind of guys you want relationships with. It’s great to showcase your interests, whether it’s skiing or apple-picking or rock climbing. Please don’t bother with a 50-yard shot of you on a mountain in a hat and glasses. We don’t really want to see what you did on your summer vacation; we want to see who we’ll be sitting and talking to for the better part of an hour. One man called in specifically to say he did not want to see a woman’s cats on her dating profile. Don’t introduce these human dramas into your profile. Don’t tell me those are all the pictures you have of yourself. If you’d like some help with your online profile–and dating in general–I have a few slots open for new coaching clients.
Christan Marashio, founder of And Thats Why Youre Single.com, adds that “it's normal for people to have some trouble crafting a profile and to use self-deprecating humor to lighten the mood.
Too much humor is usually a sign that the person is insecure and uncomfortable with being vulnerable, which could lead to problems with emotional intimacy down the road.
Also if there are multiple girls it could send the wrong message. Costume Whoever looks at your profile wants to see you, not what you look like in something you wear once a year.