He had a roommate and I just figured he used it to take pics of himself for the computer.It bothered me because I didn’t really know, but I got over it and let it go.Typically, what happens when you try to control a partner’s behavior, especially a behavior that is very rewarding to him, a partner will learn to better hide or conceal his activities (see when people lie).
What do you think and can you help as to what I should do. The feelings that you are experiencing now are very similar to what people experience when they discover infidelity.
At an emotional level there is very little difference between discovering different types of cheating—it all hurts just the same (see what counts as cheating).
Well, a couple months later, again I was on his computer, found reoccurring pictures of the same girl.
I can never lie to him or hide anything, he always knows when something is up, he wouldn’t leave me alone so I told him I found these pictures of this girl that he must really like, and I saw multiple ones of her-again.
4 months ago he received an email from another girl, not sure what she said, but he replied with I’m happily engaged but thank you:),-needless to say that one gave me SOME relief (I saw others where he told them he had a g/f and was just looking for fun, others said "nothing dirty just wanted to chat"..), and the one before that was one month before he asked me to marry him-he told her that he was busy with work and stuff and that he missed her and wanted to say hi you... he describes himself as shy in the beginning but get past that and he’s got a very dirty mind...