In 3.6 years, the average time before marriage in my research sample, there is plenty of time for two people to carefully evaluate each other’s character, assess compatibility, set off future land mines, and figure out how to work through conflicts together.
They do not leave their futures—including their marriages—up to chance, but instead proceed through life in a very intentional manner.
Many have delayed receiving their relatively high incomes for several years to pursue graduate degrees.
But if I were to peg an age, it would probably be around 30—old enough to know yourself, but young enough to grow with someone.
• I think the best time to get married is when you are in a good place emotionally, professionally, personally, financially because by then it should be clear to you that you are able to do great on your own, but life is just that much sweeter married to this one person.
Similarly, the married respondents in my well-educated sample () indicated that they spent an average of 3.6 years dating their husbands before committing to marriage.